Celebrating our 50th! | Dear Readers
by Elouise
When we got married September 11, 1965, we weren’t thinking about what it might mean to celebrate our anniversaries early in September. Nor did we know that both of us would become graduate students and then geeky academics who have to show up for teaching and other duties during early September no matter what!
Bottom line: Yes, we celebrated over the years, but it was often low-key. You know. Dinner out, wherever and whenever we could afford it. Cards and the occasional gift that stood out from the others. Now and then we settled for a substitute day, usually on a weekend.
Then we got into academic administration. Not at the same institution, mind you! But we got into it, and that meant duties began in August. When September came around nobody was even thinking of taking a day or two off. At least we weren’t.
In 2011, I retired from my position at the seminary. D, however, decided he would like to work for an indeterminate number of years before retiring. We’re virtually the same age, so this wasn’t about age. His work involved a lot of international travel, sometimes on the date of our wedding anniversary.
As of this month, however, D has actually retired! Sort of. He’ll still do some traveling, and help with projects during the transition. But we now have no excuses about not celebrating properly, and we have missed opportunities to redeem—if that’s possible.
Since it’s our 50th, we decided to take 2-3 weeks and just do whatever we want to do. I won’t tell you what we’re going to do. So don’t ask. But I will say part of it involves day trips, restaurants, hiking, birding, museums, lazing around and whatever else strikes our fancy.
Why am I telling you this? Because I’m not going to do heavy-duty posting for the next 2 to 3 weeks. That means things like my Faculty Wife series will be on hold. Hopefully I’ll have some lighter posts that you’ll enjoy. I will be checking in from time to time, so don’t stop coming by!
Thanks for your faithful reading—which doesn’t mean reading everything (unless you really want to!). It just means showing up regularly or as you’re able, to listen in and be part of the conversation.
I can’t help heaving a big sigh every time I think about it. Fifty years of living with D! Maybe I’ll have a few things to say about that in the next 2-3 weeks.
I pray God’s blessing on each of you, in whatever ways you need blessing right now.
Elouise
© Elouise Renich Fraser, 31 August 2015
Photo credit: DAFraser, June 2015
Children’s Garden in the Longwood Gardens Conservatory

Happy anniversary and have a great hiatus…relax, have fun and see you soon💜
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Thanks, Z! That sounds like a great plan–especially the seeing you soon part!
Elouise
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Happy golden anniversary!! A couple of weeks to do whatever you want sounds fantastic. Enjoy!
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Thanks, Kathy! I’m still pinching myself. Is this really happening? I do, however, like the sound of “do whatever you want!”
Elouise
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Have a wonderful time together. Happy anniversary!
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Thanks, April! I hope your next few weeks are (in a positive way) beyond your wildest dreams, too.
Elouise
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Enjoy yourselves on your golden anniversary. Talk about an inconvenient date to celebrate through the years — Leta and I were both in school at different campuses and couldn’t see any good time in the near future except over the Christmas holidays. We were married the day after Christmas.
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Hi, Waldo! That has to be second only to being born the day after Christmas! I can’t even imagine it….though I suppose when you were young, crazy in love and desperate to find a wedding date, it was the best day of the whole year! Thanks for your good wishes.
Elouise
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I do recall Deuteronomy 24:5 instructing the newly married to spend one year without external cares (“for one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.”) Seems to me celebrating 50 years certainly qualifies for 2-3 weeks! We celebrate with & for you – especially if we do not see any postings during this celebratory time!
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Meg, Thanks for your good wishes and comment. I always felt cheated when I read that instruction. It’s a profound acknowledgment of the importance of marriage, and the kind of focus it takes to make and keep one ‘alive.’ I can’t promise no posts at all–though who knows? It’s a possibility.
Elouise
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Congratulations and happy anniversary! Enjoy the time. Love, Natalie
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Thanks, Natalie! We’re psyched!
Elouise
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Happy Anniversary! An amazing feat, to say the least. Congrats!
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Blessings and congratulations to you both. XXX ♥
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Thanks, Fran! I just finished my post for tomorrow–a little bit about our trip to Scotland!!! I thought of you a zillion times, especially while we were in Edinburgh. We had a wonderful time together.
Elouise 🙂
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Hey, you were in Scotland? WOW! That’s great. xxxxxx 🙂
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YES! It was super great! I was blown away in so many ways–especially by the people we met anywhere, anytime. And also by the history of Scotland–known until then only by way of books and news reports. D’s family roots are in Scotland-Castle Fraser. Hence our choice of Scotland!
Elouise
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