About Awards and Me
by Elouise
The first time a blogger nominated me for an award, I didn’t know what to do. Was I happy? Yes! Thrown into inner turmoil? Yes! It felt like an interruption that would derail my writing.
I decided it would be easier to decline politely, with thanks to the blogger who nominated me. So I did just that.
I also said I needed to put something up on my blog about it being award-free. That would settle everything without any fuss or hurt feelings on anyone’s part.
As things developed, I didn’t put up an award-free page. I just let it go because I wasn’t sure what to say, especially since I wasn’t getting nominated for awards every day! In fact, putting up a notice like that felt presumptuous.
Then a few other nominations came along, and I began to have second thoughts. By then I’d read what other bloggers had to say about awards. Yet I wasn’t certain what I thought and why.
I responded by following through on a few of the nominations, but not on all of them. Strange to say, I actually enjoyed the few I completed! This only increased my uncertainty.
Then, in the last month, two blogging friends nominated me for writing challenges. My first thought? I don’t have time for this! My second thought? Oh! I think I might like to do this!
I’ve now completed both challenges (3 quotations, and 5 stories), and loved each of them. This got me thinking again about nominations and what I’ll do if there’s another.
First, I’ll tell myself the truth:
- Nominations and the ‘rules’ attached to each of them aren’t Rules for Good Girls or The Ten Commandments or any other set of life-regulating commands.
- No one is obligated to accept an award or challenge. This includes me!
Great! But now how do I think about this?
First, no matter how I feel about a nomination, I’ll say ‘Thank you! You made my day!’ Or something like that.
- Good manners? Yes. But it’s more than that.
- Even if I don’t know the person who nominated me, just being nominated is a wonderful surprise. Knowing someone thought about me gives me a huge lift. A reason to keep writing!
Second, I like encouragement and challenges from time to time.
- Comments and Likes are great! Are they my awards? Yes, but they aren’t the same as nominations.
- A nomination encourages me to challenge my writing. Not just about what I write, but how I put it together.
Third, I want to know what connection this person has with me.
- Is this one of my followers or someone I follow?
- In any case, is this blogger writing about themes I’m writing about such as healing from trauma, relationships, spiritual formation and writing?
Fourth, is there a way to connect this award or challenge with themes about which I already write?
- If so, I’m more likely to accept the nomination.
- If not, I’m not likely to accept it.
This morning I read an excellent post about nominations. I also read many comments made in response to the post, and found them helpful.
So here’s my thinking today:
- I’m free to take each nomination as it comes, with gratitude, and then decide whether to follow-up on the requirements or not.
- I reserve the right to make small changes in the requirements, in keeping with the spirit of the award or challenge.
- I’ll never enjoy having to choose which blogger/s to nominate for an award or challenge. This is why I’ll likely keep throwing it open to anyone who would like a writing challenge.
What are your thoughts about awards and challenges?
Do/would you enjoy being nominated for awards or challenges?
Are you, as I am, uncomfortable being nominated for anything? If so, why?
If you’re not a blogger, what do you think about all this?
© Elouise Renich Fraser, 6 October 2015
Image from pinterest.com
Yes, my dear friend Elouise, I have wondered about the awards “thing-a-me-gig.” And I think I am sort of with you..Maybe it is an age thing. Some of my young blog friends are all very happy about awards. I am a bit inclined to say “Thanks but I am not into all that.” We old buggers are all so humble. And as for this old bugger he has been told that his blogging is such a total waste of time that he feels he should not ever respond to anything but just go on dreaming in the silence of his own heart.
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Thanks, John. I think you’re right on target about the humble old buggers. In fact, I feel right at home with that language! Which is not to say I don’t enjoy my younger and even youngest bloggy friends. I love them, too! And I’m thrilled when they’re thrilled (about awards). Maybe you and I missed getting the gene that would make us happy or even eager to get this kind of recognition. While I’m at it: I believe one person’s putdown of another person’s writing is not the voice of God or angels! I hope your dreaming keeps showing up in your writing. That’s what it’s all about.
Your friend Elouise
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I love awards. They’re the “I-love-yous” only a blogger can get. I love to collect them because each of them means that someone remembered me somewhere. My father always said “the worst thing you can do is live your life and die unnoticed”. Being noticed in a positive way, this is what I am so happy about each time I get a nomination. It’s just more than questions and answers and games. At least for me 🙂 but I’m younger, so John and you might be right 😀
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Here’s one thing I love to pieces–seeing how happy you are when you receive awards! It makes me smile and feel all happy inside for you. Why? Probably a mix of age and personality types. I’ve always wanted to be noticed–but not with public fanfare. I am, however, thrilled when people read and like or comment on what I write–as you just did! Thanks, Becky!
Elouise
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By the way I did not forget the short-stories challenge, I’m just dealing with a cold these days 🙂
But I’m still a good reader and I still enjoy your posts – even with fever 😊👍
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No problem! When you’re well and ready it will happen. I’m so glad to know my posts have a small medicinal affect by bringing you a little joy! 🙂
Elouise
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They always have. See, you just were my inspiration for writing my first story. 🙂 Love, B
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