Dethroned
by Elouise
The winter Olympics are upon us! So just for today, here are a couple of old photos from my past that tell a bit of a story about my family of one father, one mother and four sisters. Nothing profound, unless you’ve been there and understand the dynamics of being dethroned.
First: I’m the oldest, 10 years old judging by the shape of my body parts. An early bloomer as they said back then. Sister #2 is 8 1/2 years old, and Sister #3 (Diane) is 4 years old. Sister #4 is still a baby. And yes, my hair is in rubber-hive curlers. An attempt to make my hair look pretty.
It’s bad enough to be the first-born dethroned three times by the arrival of baby sisters who suddenly grab all the attention. But to be forced to give up my rightful seat on my brand new adult-size bike when I was 10 years old got my goat. Not that I let it show very much in the photo, but I guarantee you, I’m not happy in photo #2.
Nor is Diane, Sister #3, the youngest in the photo. She has totally checked out of the happy sisters mode and is enduring the shame of having been booted from her larger wheels to this ridiculously tiny baby tricycle. I love her for her honesty. She has her hands defiantly clasped in her lap–not on the handlebars as requested by my father. Sister #2 is being as cooperative as possible, having given up her two wheels for three.
And there I am, boiling with indignation on the inside (yes, I remember this well) but ‘calm’ on the outside, while my mother poses for my father on MY new bike! I wonder what was going through her mind?
Small stuff, you say? Not to me. Which is already more than enough said.
For now, Happy Friday and Happy Winter Olympics! May the best women and men win, and those dethroned be gracious and appropriately distressed.
Β© Elouise Renich Fraser, 9 February 2018
Photos taken by my father, Fall 1953, in our front yard near Savannah, Georgia
Great story. Thanks for sharing π
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Thanks! I’m glad you enjoyed it π
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Lovely pictures four billy’s all in a row, love it. even if sisters 2 & 4 don’t get named, strange that. says he scratching head wandering off stage >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>right
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Diane, who had polio as a baby and died of ALS in 2006, has been featured in a number of posts (See categories). As for my other two sisters, this blog isn’t about them. It’s about coming to terms with the way I was brought up, and getting on with my life. The photo with 4 of us doesn’t include my youngest sister. That’s my mother posing on my new bike. Our youngest sister was a baby when my father took that photo.
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Thought you looked a bit older than 10, must be these new glasses I’ve got, π¦ My apologies
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No problem! Just wanted you to know my 10-year old body wasn’t quite that svelte! π
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I wouldn’t mind having my 10 year old body back again; come to think of it any body in preference to the one I’ve got.
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Diane’s little pout and face, priceless E, it’s strange how the little things, or to some what may seem little things, are indeed big boulders of pain and memory. Love the pics regardless my friend β€
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It’s amazing. From almost the very beginning Diane had the moxy to let her face show her feelings–though always through her way of shaping her face! π In fact, she figured out how to survive at a very early age and still manage to carry on a decent (if studied) relationship with our parents. Just don’t do what Elouise just did, or go that far! Oh the heavy weight we firstborns carry! π
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I came second out of four….a lot of resentment from the first for the longest time…..sigh…..if only we are born into peace and carry it through all of our lives…what a wonderful world it could beππ
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So true. ππ
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Mmm. I’m the eldest of 5. I know I was bossy. The next two – brothers – had to help build rafts to float on our small swamps [they always sank] or tree houses or whatever I wanted them to do. But they did plenty of their own things as well. I know we had a much happier childhood than you did. Our parents weren’t very demonstrative to us but genuinely loved us. Reading your blogs Elouise, I realise how very fortunate we were. Very poor yet we lacked for nothing of importance.
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Thanks, Robin. Your comment rings true. And I love your bossy story! π
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