My Heavy Daily Burden
by Elouise
I seem to have inherited—or imbibed from some putrid well—a long-faced, morose and sanctimonious approach to duty.
- [Imagine: Many sighs and heavings of the breast to communicate the awful heaviness of my daily burden]
No need to thank me. I’m just doing my duty!
- [Interpretation: You have no idea how many hours of thankless service I give you every day of my life! If it weren’t for you I’d be a whole lot happier! Probably healthier, too!]
Oswald Chambers was allergic to this kind of Christianity. Every now and then—not too often, mind you!—I get into a little funk about the great and heavy burdens I bear without complaint because I’m just doing my duty! For you, of course, my dear _______ !
- [Fill in the blank: husband, child, friend, employer, student, neighbor, etc. etc. etc.]
Why, then, is this seemingly unbearable burden so bearable that we even enjoy boasting about it? Why not just show it the door, kick it out, or send it where it belongs?
Chambers doesn’t say it outright, but he hints that it’s bearable because we think it’s earning us gold stars on our foreheads—the way we used to earn them when at least some of us were very good and dutiful little girls and boys in school. Or at church. Or at home. Or at work.
Not so, says OC. It’s not earning us anything! Here’s what he says about duty, edited for readability. He’s commenting on the following verse:
Whatever things are lovely. . .think on these things. (Philippians 4:8)
The things of loveliness,
the things that are morally agreeable and pleasant.
The word lovely has the meaning of juicy and delicious.
That is the definition given by Calvin,
and he is supposed to be a Moloch of severity!
We have the idea that duty must always be disagreeable,
and we make any number of duties out of diseased sensibilities.
If duty is disagreeable,
it is a sign that we are in a disjointed relationship with God.
If God gave some people a fully sweet cup,
they would go carefully into a churchyard and turn the cup
upside down and empty it, and say,
“No, that could never be meant for me.”
The idea has become incorporated into their makeup
that their lot must always be miserable.
Once we become rightly related to God,
duty will never be a disagreeable thing of which we have to say
with a sigh, “Oh well, I must do my duty.”
Duty is the daughter of God.
Never take your estimate of duty after a sleepless night,
or after a dose of indigestion;
take your sense of duty from the Spirit of God and the words of Jesus.
There are people whose lives are diseased and twisted by a
sense of duty which God never inspired;
but once let them begin to think about the things of loveliness,
and the healing forces that will come into their lives will be amazing.
The very essence of godliness is in the things of loveliness;
think about these things, says Paul.
Oswald Chambers, Daily Thoughts for Disciples, July 2
First published in 1976; published in the USA by Barbour Publishing
© Elouise Renich Fraser, 2 July 2015
Image of Pugh cartoon from dailymail.co.uk, 2 July 2015

If I get in a huffy funk about yet again picking up after______(insert dog, family,husband)here and I am chuckling….yep, I like to play music and shuffle around while I flit from chore to chore…pretending I’m Cinderella….makes me a bit happier to have accomplished something😊
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Too funny sweet for words! Cinderella. My my. What an image. And so like her–just whistling a happy tune! Wonderful comment and image. 🙂
Elouise
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Thank you, Elouise, for this. One of the things I appreciate about Oswald Chambers is how he often works through his own “stuff,” and I benefit from his process. Here is a great reminder of how much I tend to enjoy life – even, and sometimes, the every day “dailies” of it. I just returned from ASDA, a big grocery store, where I did the major hopping for the month. I enjoyed it, even though they put things in what seem to me mysterious places here in Britain (I never did find the vinegar, or the matches…), and the naming/packaging of things is sometimes baffling – it is a joy (and a blessing) to grocery shop! I do not usually experience it as a burden, but I know others who do, sometimes because it reminds them of other relational issues not yet, or not sufficiently addressed, but also because they may not have enough money to shop without anxiety…
At any rate, thank you again for a middle of the day reminder that each day is a gift, and that we can choose how we understand ourselves, and the various components (human and other) of our lives.
Love from Tyndale house to you and D!
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You’re so welcome, Debbie. I’m always in awe of people born with smiles on their faces (so to speak)! Actually, grocery shopping is one of my favorite things–though I remember years when I dreaded it. Having to make choices about what we could and could not afford. And what would get us the most meals for our dollars. It sounds like you had a “hopping” good trip to ASDA today! I resisted the urged to edit your happy “hopping for the month” comment above! 🙂 I hope you’re still hopping along right now, enjoying a well-deserved break in routine!
Cheers!
Elouise
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Elouise, would you agree to allow me to reprint this in my church newsletter? I think it may speak to some as much as it does to me! Thank you!
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You’re welcome, David. Yes, I’d be happy to have it reprinted in your church newsletter, along with info about the source (my full name and blog address). Thanks also for your personal comment. I’m glad you could connect–even though it isn’t a very uplifting connection! I’m right there with you.
Elouise
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I think we sometimes take on these “duties” because we love the accolades we receive from doing them. By doing so, we take the true meaning out of bearing one another’s burdens.
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Ohhh. Nice comment. I think you’re correct, Sean. This kind of makes up for the heaviness of the burden. Kind of….even though, as you point out, it detracts from the true joy of helping someone else–whether or not anyone ever knows about it, or cares.
Elouise
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I’ve been trying to make it a practice of doing whatever it is I need to do out of the eye of the public because it can draw the wrong kind of attention and my actions can be misinterpreted.
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Your comment makes me smile–since all we do is public to God. And I do understand and appreciate your point! It’s important. Doing it ‘secretly’ could also increase our joy (rather than increasing the heavy burden). It’s like having a happy secret no one else knows about.
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Yes!
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“Once we become rightly related to God,
duty will never be a disagreeable thing of which we have to say
with a sigh, “Oh well, I must do my duty…”
What meaningful words. When doing things that might be considered my duty, like paying bills or loading the dishwasher (Leta fixes our meals, I cleanup after) or going to the Y for exercise, I usually just say (or feel) , “it needs to be done.” But sometimes they do seem to be disagreeable. So then I do need to get right with God.
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Hi, Waldo. Those disagreeable things just seem to jump out of the woodwork sometimes. Actually, I might have added Smudge, our cat, to the list of creatures for whom I ‘must’ do my duty! Smudge, however, is easier to relate to than some other kinds of creatures I know–including myself. By the time I’ve discovered the duty I ‘must’ to do for Smudge, he’s back into his sweet, lovable cat-like ways. Thanks so much for your comment, and for highlighting the difference between doing what simply needs to be done, and feeling like a martyr (or a bit of one) as we do it. As though God or someone else had just made life more miserable for us.
Elouise
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