Out of control
by Elouise
Four nights in a row. Out of control, nightmarish dreams that brought me to a full stop for a few days. I was in my dreams, but not in the driver’s seat. I wasn’t even in the vehicles. I was an onlooker, watching things go downhill with each increasingly dangerous iteration of the same scenario.
I don’t like starting over. I like getting into a groove and then letting things go ahead ‘as normal.’ Yet it seems nothing is normal anymore. Especially when it comes to my body.
A quick inventory:
Energy:
Back up to about 75%, after plummeting two years ago.
Sleep:
Definitely improved in the last three months so that I’m getting at least 7 hours of sleep each night without an unsightly number of bathroom visits. I know that’s not polite to talk about, but let’s just be real for a minute or two, OK?
Eating:
So healthy it makes me sick to think about it. Also the cause for most of my time management issues. Lots of cutting and chopping for those super-healthy smoothies, and constant vigilance about having the right stuff on hand. And then there’s that huge cleanup afterwards while I watch D make a sandwich, chomp a raw carrot, enjoy one small chocolate square, and be done with it.
Exercise:
Getting at least 2 miles of walking in a day, often more; burning well over 1300 calories a day; getting at least 30 minutes of ‘active’ walking a day. No complaints, except when it rains and I’m confined to indoor stairs and my small semi-recumbent bike.
Social Life:
It does happen sometimes. Yesterday we had another lively afternoon tea with our neighbors. Late last week I saw my nearly 85-year old friend Rita when we were out for a walk. And I go to church every Sunday where I’m known for standing around talking with my friends until I get run out. I’m not an extrovert, but I do love being with people, and miss the easy flow of socializing with friends and former colleagues.
Sometimes I feel sorry for myself. Sometimes I feel at peace. Yet most of the time I feel driven by whatever the next thing is. This includes time to rest each day—off my feet, relaxed, usually listening to music or taking a little snooze.
I want to experience peace more often, and not feel so driven by whatever the next thing is on my list. Or all those things that ‘should’ be on my list but aren’t.
I also want to keep an open mind about my lists. Most items are non-negotiable. I can rearrange some. Yet by the end of the day, I want to embody the spirit of this small prayer even though I don’t always succeed. I’m especially challenged by the last item.
I let go my desire for security and survival.
I let go my desire for esteem and affection.
I let go my desire for power and control.
I let go my desire to change the situation.Quoted by Cynthia Bourgeault in Centering Prayer and Inner Awakening, p. 147 (Cowley Publications 2004)
Right now it happens to be lunchtime, so I’ll happily retire to the kitchen….
©Elouise Renich Fraser, 31 May 2018
Photo found at wisegeek.com
make the day a journey, a new one every day, blessings
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Indeed. Thank you.
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your welcome, for the record, your soul never dies, it passes on to another plain, while we get it better with age, thanks
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Your response makes me smile….sometimes going up feels like plummeting down. Thanks for the encouragement.
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I encountered Holy Spirit, God is real, put a smile on your face, you made my day with your comment, thanks
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When I need more energy of light laughter, I release everything – just let it all go. (All the chores I should do, books I should read, things I think I have to do. I just release.) And then, I can bound out of bed again. 🙂 ((xx))
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This sounds like a winner. Maybe that’s what I did yesterday–though without a ‘prescription’ 🙂 ! Next time I’ll remember the Dr. Fran Tonic and take a tablespoon with glee. Thanks! xxxOOO
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Thank you so much, Elouise 🙂 xxx I recon the most important part of any day – life! – is how much joy we can get for ourselves. With that in mind, I’ve been clearing out my book shelves – and getting rid of all the books I think I ‘ought to’ read or review. And it makes such a difference! Wow! Have a lovely day. xxx
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I can’t tell you how much I love this comment…💜💕🙏🏻
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I love you too. ((xxx))
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a good list and looking very well, except the cutting up for smoothies….I like effortless, have missed you and playing catch up slow but sure ❤
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No hurry, no worry….it’s feeling like Florida today…feeling your pain and grateful for air conditioning! 💜
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