On My Mother’s Table | Memories
by Elouise
Photo taken in 1948, before Mother came down with polio in 1949
Ruth, Elouise, Dad, Mother, and Grandpa Gury
I’m reposting this in honor of my mother, Eileen Gury Renich, born 12 July 1921.
I often wonder what she would have been like without polio or the pain of her childhood.
It colored everything that happened in my life.
A graceful old table
With fold-down wings
On each side and
Beautiful scrolling
Along the edges
Sits there in the kitchen
Small and old with just enough
Room to turn around
A small pantry hides beneath
stairs to the second floor
A window looks out
Above the small porcelain sink
With ridged sideboard
A small walk-through kitchen
With four doors
Impossible to miss stands
Ready and quick to reach
There on the table they sit
In their permanent space
Neatly arranged on a medium-size
Round tray never messy always tidy
Kept just next to the short wall
Out of the way not in your face
Part of the scenery
Normal things needed daily in
My Mother’s kitchen
Salt and pepper
A sugar bowl and bottle of creamer
Instant coffee and paper napkins
Or were they paper towels
I’m not quite sure
Vitamins and minerals
Aspirin and toothpicks
Small round Rx bottles neatly arranged
At least a dozen sometimes more
Coming and going as needed
New and old as prescribed
One on top of the other
For the latest pain or muscle discomfort
Carefully labeled and marked with her name
Mother’s name only not anyone else’s
Her cafeteria of pain-killers and relaxants
Old friends from polio days plus
New friends added to her
Growing collection of pills or
Were they drugs from
Multiple doctors with multiple solutions
A potent mix of ingredients
For multiple ailments in multiple periods
Of her pain-ridden sleep-deprived life
Sit neatly on the table
Ready at a moment’s notice
Would you please bring me
My phenobarbital and a cup of coffee?
Caffeine and barby doll her friends for life
But at what cost?
Drugs free from a friend’s prescription shop
But at what cost?
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© Elouise Renich Fraser, 21 July 2015, edited and reposted 12 July 2021,
the anniversary of my Mother’s birth (12 July 1921 – 17 Feb. 1999)
© Elouise Renich Fraser, 12 July 2021
Tourist photo taken in 1948
Very touching tribute to your mom!
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Thank you kindly, BG. She was a workhorse, despite everything. She held the family together for as long as she was able, though not without great cost to herself and to her four daughters.
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Thank you for this intimate picture of part of your life and your mother’s.
Marilyn
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You’re welcome, Marilyn. Sadly, polio did widespread damage to her body. She was only 28 years old.
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How well you describe your mother from the things on her table.
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Thanks, Betty. She lived a hard life, though I didn’t fully appreciate that when I was young.
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I don’t think any of us fully appreciate when we are young. We need a few hard knocks to learn appreciation for anything really. She would love what you wrote, any mother would.
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A beautiful tribute to come across tonight while researching my Grandfather E.W. Parker. His sister Rilla Ludlow Parker married George W Bartle and they had or adopted Zaida May, who married John Chester Gury, who had a daughter, Eileen Gury, who married your father. So, somehow we are related and I would be happy to share any information I have on that side of the family (Parker/Tillinghast, etc.). All the best and thank you. Kent Watkins (646) 234-3545. kent.watkins@yahoo.com
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Hi, Kent! Wow. I’m sitting here, stunned. My husband, David, is the keeper of our family trees. He’s particularly interested in knowing whether Zaida was adopted or not. Our family trees are already huge–and I’m thrilled to have another connection out there. Thanks for your contact information. You might also enjoy this older post about Zaida–which includes her favorite photo of herself. She was quite the queen! Also a bit difficult, as you’ll see. Here’s the link: https://wp.me/p32tHJ-4jk.
Elouise
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