Everything isn’t always beautiful
by Elouise
This morning I’ve been thinking about Mary Oliver’s poem, Everlasting. On first reading, it may seem Mary is accepting and putting a positive spin on everything. Making things pretty.
Yes, there’s always hope for something better. Nonetheless, Mary focuses intently on what’s in front of her. Nothing is too fleeting or small to notice.
Much, if not most of her poetry captures the small details and stories of nature’s wonders. Yet she also describes the horror and ugliness of human behavior. Some of it shows up in nature as well, putting beauty at risk.
I picture her with a ‘camera’ (her ever-present writing notebook), in which she records everything she observes. The good, the beautiful, the bad, the unexpected and the ugly. She doesn’t flinch or soften the blow of reality.
Mary challenges me most when she lets her unvarnished truth go public. Truth about herself, her family, her father (A Bitterness), and small scenarios playing out in predatory behaviors in the non-human world (Small Bodies).
Beginning with me, there’s so much we humans hide, or carefully dress up to mask our neediness. Mary invites us to find ourselves in the midst of whatever we’re dealing with or see in the mirror. Sometimes it’s a real mirror. Other times, it can be the mirror of Mary’s poetry. Or the morning news. Or an unplanned trip to the doctor.
Hoping your day is thoughtful and rewarding, no matter the cost.
Elouise♥
© Elouise Renich Fraser, 13 July 2020
Invasive Mission Grass image found at 123RF.com
Thank you Mary and thank you my dear friend Elouise. Keep it real.
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You’re so welcome, Tom! I appreciate the way you keep things real. 🙂
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This morning I was overwhelmed with despair. Hearing the news (new highs in coronavirus cases, over-filled prisons, lack of leadership and the need for religious leaders to call for safety, etc.), listening to the book The New Jim Crow, reading Austin Channing Brown’s I’m Still Here. Realizing there is so much work to do to bring real change…. I need a break from it all! Yet, isn’t that the very definition of white privilege, to be able to look away for a while, to opt out, to not have to deal with the color of my skin if I choose not to? Yes, everything isn’t always beautiful. Thank you for the reminder that there is beauty in the world, in addition to all that’s terribly wrong. ~Natalie
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Yes, all mixed in together. I really like your take on the definition of white privilege. And I know the despair you’re talking about. It’s hard to take baby steps when we’ve been running away for so long. Don’t forget that you/we are beautiful, too–in the zany way all humans are. And aren’t. This is a trying time–in which I think our own ‘colors’ are showing whether we like it or not. Never a comfortable situation. I hope you went out for a good walk or bike ride today, or sang your heart out–and found some of that elusive beauty!
Elouise 🙂
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I’m grateful for your encouragement. David and I are going for a bike ride this morning! 😁
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Yay!
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Thought-provoking and heart-touching, Elouise. Thank you for sharing this.
You know I love Mary Oliver and her words, too.
One of the best things I’ve learned in life is that it’s okay not to be okay…and that life isn’t always beautiful…and so much of it all rests on our response, attitude, and actions. So when I am not okay, I learn, I grow, I humble myself and let people encourage me, etc. 🙂 And when things are ugly or sad, I look for the beautiful and joyful and I usually find them…if I can’t find them, I create them. 🙂
Life is still tough no matter what…but trying to rest in the positives helps.
(((HUGS))) 🙂
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Oh, my dear Carolyn. What a wonderful comment about your life and life in general. It’s so much easier to be the one offering support, rather than the person who needs support. “…I humble myself and let people encourage me….” Sometimes it’s the hardest thing to do. And we must. I also love your comment about ‘creating’ the beautiful and joyful! 🙂 Hugs from this spot on the globe to your spot on the globe! 🙂
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